In a word–exhausting

Let me explain… 

I have to say that one of the most frequent questions that comes through my email inbox are from Josh’s fans. They all want to know, “what is it like being married to Josh Flagg?”

I want to start out by saying that in my house he is just Joshie boy or hubby, or Liza with a “z.” 🙂

I don’t think of him the way his fans do, which probably explains the look he gives me when I ask him to do normal things like take out the trash, or pour me a glass of wine after work. That being said, this blog is all for the JF fans and my own little tribute to my husband, who always keeps things interesting. 

The Josh Flagg Experience

Josh challenges me in so many ways that no one else ever has before, which is one of the many reasons why I married him. He truly is one of my greatest teachers. I know that sounds cheesy, but hear me out. When you are married to someone who challenges you in many different ways, you can’t help but learn so much about yourself along the way. 

Since we have such different personalities I have had to learn the art of practicing patience, and knowing when to compromise. Sometimes, I still agree to going out for the 6th night out in a row. These are just a few of the fundamental things I have learned in my marriage. Our experiences together have been some of the best times of my entire life. 

I would be remiss if I didn’t admit that being married to Josh comes with some pretty nice perks as well. People take an interest in me, simply because of who my husband is. Now I’m not talking about being noticed on the street or being given the best table at a restaurant. I am talking about being able to make a difference. It helps me to feel heard and to have a voice in the world on topics I am passionate about. 

A perfect example is Project Angel Food, an organization that helps to deliver food to people with serious illnesses, who could use a little extra care. Knowing that I can make an impact is a tremendous gift and something I am grateful for.

Whenever we go out, it seems like Josh has done business with someone before, or knows someone through a dinner party from the past. It can be a pretty surreal experience for a small-town kid from Pacifica to have some of the experiences that Josh and I do. A few months ago, Cindy Crawford walked into the restaurant we were eating at with her husband, Randy. Josh of course had to run over and give her a hug. I couldn’t believe he went up to her! He had never met her before in his life. Believe it or not, she used to cover my bedroom walls at one time. Josh’s confidence is something that I really admire about him. I would never have the guts to walk up to someone I didn’t really know at dinner and strike up a conversation. 

Expect the Unexpected

Being married to Josh, I’ve found that the phrase “expect the unexpected” usually applies.

Josh may wake up and want to go on a mini-trip to another country. Or, he may want to go meet up with a friend for brunch time drinks at the Polo Lounge. You just really never know what you are going to get, which is why it is so exciting!

I mean being whisked away to unexpected foreign ports for impromptu vacations and mini-getaways are just examples of what it is like being married to Josh. All that travel can take its toll on you! But there’s no need to bust out the violins and cry a river for me. 

I’m a homebody and like to lounge around on the sofa with a good movie or the newest episode of Dateline, some candles lit in the background, with the fireplace on, and my husband and our dog Trouble by my side. While I know this can sound very basic, for me this is total happiness. But for Josh, he wants to constantly be on the go! 

Josh has an incredible way of making every day with me an adventure. You just never know what you are going to get with him, and it really can be such a pleasant surprise. 

When most husbands wake up in the morning they have a to-do list on their desk. When the alarm goes off that’s what is going to happen for the day. A lot of realtors are pretty regimented and just stick to the plan. Josh loves to throw curveballs and use his intuition to guide his decision-making and it can be a bit of a ride at times. Luckily, I get to go on it with him. 

The only difficulty is how determined and stubborn he can be once he has his sights set on what he wants. 

While I’m sure his clients love that about him, it can be tough for us. However, I’ve yet to find anyone who would say that relationships are easy, and there are plenty of times where Josh is willing to compromise to make sure that we are both happy. We actually invested in going to therapy–not because we had problems, but because we are both a little Type A and wanted to learn how to best work out our compromises by putting the other person’s feelings first. It has made us so much stronger as a couple, but we are still always learning. 

Up for a Challenge

Josh also challenges me to speak up and to speak my mind. He has really provided me with a platform to come out of my shell. We have spent countless hours discussing our ideas on real estate and the housing market, and how to be better in our industry. 

Most of my friends accept what I say and are very understanding, Josh doesn’t just reciprocate what I want to hear. He pushes me to be the best version of myself, which is one of my favorite things about our marriage.

One of the things that I like most about our relationship is the fact that fans of the Bravo show write us fanmail about how we’ve inspired them to be more of who they are. As proud supporters of the younger generation of the LGBTQ community, it’s always really rewarding to hear people suggest that we are role models for them. Hearing that other people have felt that it’s possible for them to find love, based on our love is incredibly heartwarming. 

One thing that I hope Josh has learned from this small town boy, is that you have to make every deal special. Creating an experience for your client is essential and I think he’s picked up on a few of the things that I do, just like how I’ve taken a few pages out of his playbook. 

I think he’s learned how to connect with each and every client even if their personalities are the polar opposite of his. What people don’t know is that if Josh meets someone who has different personality traits than himself, he can sort of shut down and get very quiet because he isn’t sure how to navigate that conversation. It’s amazing to see him push himself out of his comfort zone and find a way to connect with everyone and for me, I find that very attractive.

I’ve watched him start to open up more, to feel a little more vulnerable, which has been a very attractive thing to watch as his husband. Watching him treat his clients like friends, also puts into perspective the work that we do as agents. Even though when we’ve done deals together, our styles are completely different, we both work hard, focus on the client, and get to bond over the experience.

One Thing that People Probably Don’t Know About Josh

Well there’s that time in Italy where we… and well, you probably don’t want to know about the time we had a few too many bottles of wine and…

Anyway–keeping it PG–most people probably wouldn’t guess that Josh is a really fantastic and talented skier.

I had actually never learned how to ski before because I was always so afraid of breaking a leg. When I would go on skiing trips with friends I would stay back at the cabin and make spiked hot chocolate and sit in the jacuzzi. So when Josh and I went out our first time together he had to show me the ropes. I’m pretty athletic so to watch someone who never grew up playing sports be so in command on the slopes was pretty incredible, and (more than a little sexy.) 

I’ve tried to get him to go on runs with me, but even going hiking is out of Josh’s comfort zone. So instead of just sipping breakfast cocktails by the pool on vacay I love when we go skiing, because we get to be side by side kicking snow in each other’s faces.

Being active with my husband outdoors is something that really connected us, but I also really love just spending quality time with Josh. I especially love when we are doing something where one of us is out of our comfort zone. It keeps things exciting in our marriage. I’m sure some of you know that marriage can become very routine and stale at times, so finding ways where we see new sides of each other even after 4 years is something I really enjoy. It’s almost like dating all over again!

Whether it’s something silly like laying in bed all weekend binge watching crime dramas and eating junk food (which we frequently do), or flying half-way across the world to experience a new city together, I have had some incredible moments with my husband. 

I know that I’m far from the only one who considers this man to be pretty amazing. Leave me a comment and let me know what your favorite Josh moment is! I can’t wait to read them all 🙂

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Rose
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Rose

❤️

Simply love at its best

Sue
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Sue

When Josh gets the best of Josh Altman, can’t stand arrogance !!!

Irene
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Irene

To be honest. I love when you put Josh in his place and he actually respects you enough to listen. He has found his true soulmate. His grandmother would be very proud of him and she would definitely love you. You both are cute together and I’m happy for both of you.

Bobby Boyd
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Bobby Boyd

Thank you Irene 🙂

Carmen
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Carmen

I love his interactions with his father.

Bobby Boyd
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Bobby Boyd

I agree! those can be really funny LOL.

Leslie Protzer
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Leslie Protzer

I love how Josh says what he thinks irregardless of who is around him. He seems real and I love this quality.

Bobby Boyd
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Bobby Boyd

One of my favorites as well! 🙂

Jos
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Jos

He has the money darling that makes the true difference especially in the USA.

Julie
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Julie

I love to watch him negotiate. He is so good at it!

Maggie Lane
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I love it when Josh shuts down Josh Altman, I really can’t stand that mans arrogance!

Maggie Lane
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I really love the way your Josh shuts down Josh Altman, I really don’t like that mans’ arrogance.

Lori Pierson
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Lori Pierson

Thank you ♡✩✩

Bobby Boyd
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Bobby Boyd

Thank you for reading Lori 🙂

Patricia Pearson
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Patricia Pearson

My favorite Josh moments are when he would visit his Grandmother in her Penthouse and they would just talk. I could watch that for hours. Edith was such a Woman Of the World. Her sage advice to her loving Grandson was epic. I really wish Bravo would run a full retro series, “The World According to Edith”. Even from the grave she would teach us all a few good life lessons.

Miniter
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Miniter

Totally agree – loved Edith x

Edel
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Edel

Yes my very favorite one of them all as well. ❤️❤️❤️

Bobby Boyd
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Bobby Boyd

I agree with you! Ill put in a good word at Bravo for you 🙂

Bob
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Bob

Bobby, I’ve read a few of your blogs and I have to say I am overwhelmed by the person you’ve become. I am so very proud that you are my nephew. You are always a caring and giving person and now you’ve found the happiness everyone strives for. Between you two so many others will benefit from your generosity.
Give you husband a hug for me and know you have my love and admiration. Keep on keeping on Bubba.

Bobby Boyd
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Bobby Boyd

Awe thank you uncle bob that means a lot coming from you. 🙂 Ill make sure to give Josh a big hug from you. Love you!

Erin
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Erin

What a great writing. You two are not just adorable, but inspirational. Love watching your interactions on the show. Can’t wait for more! Get filming! ?❤️

Erin
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Erin

That email is wrong lol. Can’t edit ??‍♀️

Bobby Boyd
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Bobby Boyd

Thank you Erin 🙂 The new season should be premiering in a month or two.

Samantha
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Samantha

Some of my favorite Josh moments have been him talking about Edith. It’s clear that she had quite an impact on his life, it’s touching. He honestly inspired me to start taking my grandmother out to dinner each month so we could catch up and appreciate spending time together.

Bobby Boyd
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Bobby Boyd

I absolutely love that you are doing that with your grandmother! They have a lot to teach us and one on one time is so precious.

Beata
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Beata

His love for his grandma and the deep connection they had. Brings back memories for me as I had the same kind of relationship with my beloved grandma. I could watch those episodes over and over again. Loved Edith’s honesty ?

Erin L Anderson
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Erin L Anderson

Beautiful thoughts!

Bobby Boyd
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Bobby Boyd

Thank you Erin! 🙂

Patricia
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Patricia

My favorite is when you 2 got married!! You too are very Beautiful and Blessed to have found each other cherish every day!

Bobby Boyd
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Bobby Boyd

Thank you Patricia ! 🙂

Paula Todora
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Paula Todora

Josh has been my favorite MDL man from day 1. My favorite times are those spent with Edith, May God rest her soul❤️
I loved when he took trips with her and called her by her first name. She loved him so much, and he loved her with all his heart, you could tell. Their relationship was the sample for what I have with my 11-yr old grandson. I’m glad you are there with him because after her loss, I don’t know what he would’ve done without you. Love you both❤️

Bobby Boyd
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Bobby Boyd

Thank you Paula! Sending love right back to you 🙂

Melinda Holcomb
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Melinda Holcomb

Absolutely LOVED his relationship with his grandmother, Edith. I have three grandsons and hope we can have a very close relationship like Josh did with Edith. Had tears in my eyes when she passed away. Love you two and are very lucky to have found each other!!!

Kristie Hicks
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Kristie Hicks

The conversations between Josh and his Grandmother. ♥️

Deborah
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Deborah

I love how he loves his people and his old soul. Great blog! You two are a great match.

Bobby Boyd
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Bobby Boyd

Thank you for reading Deborah and so happy you liked it 🙂

Gerry
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Gerry

I really like when he is so confident of a deal that it seems like he doesn’t Give a flying f- c if he gets it or not there are few people who could remain that cool during those stressful times in negotiation.

Laura
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Laura

A great piece of writing Bobby my heart is melting. You two are wonderful together. I only know of you guys obviously from MDLLA but what I adore about your husband is his knowledge and love for old Hollywood his brain is like the Wikipedia of vintage Hollywood what he doesn’t know probably isn’t worth knowing. His love for Edith too I lost my gran just as those episodes aired of MDLLA aired here when Josh lost Edith I didn’t have a close relationship with my gran and her dementia meant towards the end she had forgotten who I was… Read more »

Denyse Scott
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Denyse Scott

Love

Denyse Scott
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Denyse Scott

Since you love crime so much, how about coming to Crime Com in April in Orlando? I would DIE to meet you!!!

Bobby Boyd
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Bobby Boyd

I didnt even know that existed ! Ill have to check it out.

Lola
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Lola

Bobby- I have enjoyed watching IG stories to show things you do this for Josh to make him feel special. It’s great to hear he does the same for you! I have been married 21 years in March- looks to me that you two are well on your way for a life of marriage adventures

Lola
Columbus, OH

Bobby Boyd
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Bobby Boyd

You are going to have to share some of your secrets to make it 21 years 🙂

Craig
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Craig

Wow, what a beautiful story of two wonderful people.
The honesty is so inspiring.
Definitely a true love story, so private and personal. Thank you for sharing.
Favorite Josh moment, each one with him visiting his grandmother Edith and sharing with all of us viewers.

Bobby Boyd
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Bobby Boyd

Thank you for reading Craig! Im glad you liked it 🙂

Loretta
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Loretta

Great news for marriage and relationships in general. You are very inspiring and love that you’re not afraid to admit how much you learn from one another. Losing the ego I feel is essential to a long term healthy partnership. I’ll be married 41 yrs 2/16 and feel like you guys will make it at least that long! Thanks for sharing

Bobby Boyd
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Bobby Boyd

Thank you Loretta and an early Happy anniversary to you and your other half 🙂

page
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l live both of you and esp. when Josh goes out of the normal routine .. i’m so glad you both are happy.. luv to follow.. post more????

page
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i also love the interaction Josh had with his Grandmother.. precious…..

page
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luv to watch the old clips with Edith.. i know you 2 luv Maui.. i do too!

page
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i remember the episode when you guys went on a date.. never seen Josh so tongue tied !!!

Pam Webner
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Pam Webner

First of all , I have been married to my husband for 38 years, and reading your thoughts here, I have learned maybe how I can improve things in our marriage. So Thank You. Watching the show, I do love seeing Josh with his parents and the great Friendship and love they have with each other. And I can see how much they love you.

Michelle
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Michelle

Thank you for this. Simply fantastic!
Sending loads of love to you both from a fellow Pacifican
Much older than you I know your aunt and uncle. Tito regular beast me at dice at Nicks ❤️

jen
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jen

love u both so much!!!! you are both super hot rockstars!

K W
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K W

My favorite Josh moment was when he had to act as a straight husband for that house promo…. “and now the outfit is complete” said no straight boy ever! I rewatched it 10x! ?

Gail
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Gail

Josh is very lucky to have you as a husband. Of course all of the scenes with Edith

Leticia
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Leticia

I love when I see you and Josh working together in any project whether it’s in real estate or your home. Please show us more on the MDL show

Kate
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Kate

His love for Edith and you is so heartwarming to see. I enjoy watching you both on the show and always tell people Josh Flagg is my spirit animal ❤️

Coleen Blatt
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Coleen Blatt

If you ever go to Europe and visit holocaust sites, that would be very interesting. You should do a blog or vlog as a tribute to Edith. It would be very interesting to see the historical connections on one of your trips to the life Edith and her husband began in America. Well done Bobby. Personal stories are always interesting. Keep up the good work.

Geri Knott
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The way he talked about his grandmother. How much he loves her.

Judianne Graves
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Judianne Graves

Josh walks the walk and talks the talk…I use to think he was grand standing in those early million dollar listing days but he has stayed consistent to who he is…his love of his family is so genuine and lovely. I just sort of get him…great article…you are a wonderful writer. Good luck to you both.

Lisa
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Lisa

Bobby, your relationship with josh is truly inspiring. You see a lot of couple on social media and tv that post amazing pictures and videos trying to make people believe that their life is perfect. When I look at pictures and videos of the two of you, it’s a real as it gets. There is nothing fake about it. Two people with different personalities that came together and brought out the best in each other. I only hope and pray that I can meet a man that makes me at least half a happy as the two of you are.… Read more »

Penelope
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Penelope

I love this article – I have loved watching y’all’s journey and I think often we get to see Josh’s love and utter adoration for you, and it’s clear that you’ve helped him connect more with others and be more generous with his heart but it’s so lovely to read about how reciprocal the love between you is ???

Diana
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Diana

I loved all the times he spent with his Grandma…Also every time he sticks it to Josh Al tman that guys a prick.

Kelles Kennedy
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Kelles Kennedy

I loved his relationship with Edith and appreciate that they shared it with us. For Josh’s grandmother to have been his favorite person and best friend is so special and says a lot about him. Really great tribute to Josh, Bobby. I’m sure he is so touched that you took time to let us all know how much you love life with him. You are an incredible man too! Congratulations to you both. ♥️

Kym
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Kym

Wonderful glimpse into y’alls life. My personal favorite moments watching the show were all the moments with his grandmother. It showed a compassionate warm side to him that touched my heart and made me smile

Linsey W.
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Linsey W.

I love when his clients don’t think he’s right but he knows he is and ultimately they wind up having to admit so? I also really love being able to see how you two make compromises to make each other happy. Although I wish more of MDLLA was dedicated to you two they do really manage to show how Josh really does try to reign things in a bit sometimes in order to make you happy and it shows how much you push yourself outside of your comfort zone in order to keep him happy! You seem to be the… Read more »

Sara
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Sara

From the show I really saw his heart when he was with his Grandmother. Seeing how smitten you are with each other is wonderful.

Erin
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Erin

I love his respect and appreciation for tradition. I love the way he loves old homes, I love that he has a desire to restore and preserve some of the older homes. I also always loved his relationship with his grandmother. He seems like an old soul with some youthful spunk. I can see how that alone would keep you on your toes!!! ❤️

Jen
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Jen

Perfectly written, and wonderful the happiness and love you share together,,many years of happiness in your future ❤️